Everyone always tells of their engagement..."well we'd been speaking about marriage for a while now"...."we've been together for 7 years it was time"...."we were looking at rings and I showed him what I like"...."we'll get engaged after our travels" ....
now Sean and I have NEVER discussed marriage, weddings or how serious is our committment...it was more like life was just flying by because we were enjoying ourselves so much. For those of you who do not know in order to understand my story, Sean is 19 and half years older than me. When ever I said "gosh ill never wear a puffy dress to my wedding" he'd tease: "what, who you gonna marry muffin?"...I mean he'd even tease when I referred to him as a boyfriend he'd say "I didnt know you had a boyfriend"...so anyway I have never looked at jewelry never mind rings, I've never said what I like cause quite frankly I didnt like anything. We decided to go play golf in Knysna on the weekend after my school Christmas Market to relax and rejuvinate. The weather was forecasted to be terrible in Knysna and we decided to rather stay home in Grahamstown where it would be sunny and warm...I felt disappointed as I was keen to get away. Now Sean always does everything 100% and we always do fancy things and drink champagne (kind of like dont wait for the special occassion, everyday is a special occassion).
He told me we would go to Kwandwe Game Reserve, 30min out of town. We arrived at lunch and enjoyed a stunning lunch and some crisp white wine over looking the Great Fish River, we had time to kill before our game drive at 4pm and since it was boiling hot I was keen to go chill in our private plunge pool at our room. Sean popped some champagne (like I said nothing unusual) and we sat chatting me in the pool and him on those sundeck tanning chair things...and I (probably all the booze speaking) start a heart felt speech about how this is the life I always dreamt of having, and now I'm living my dream, and I'm just so grateful to have him in my life etc etc. A few minutes later he says ..."come here"...me thinking he wants a refill of the glass of champagne he just downed (now that was unusual as he never downs alcohol)...so i walk on over, he takes my hand pulls me down beside him and says:
"this is the life hey?"...."and I want you to be a part of my life forever"...I was like WHAT? what the hell is going on with you? have you gone mad? "You make me very happy and I love you lots and lots and I want to marry you".....WHAT? What's going on with you? Are you serious or joking? whats going on? I dont understand what you saying....then he whipped out the ring and said "will you be with me forever?"....for a split second I still thought it was a joke and for a split second I thought it was a lucky packet ring..then I saw that diamond sparkle and I burst out crying...it was real...he was proposing...an event I was 100% sure would never happen and I was fine with that.
Then some how in all the commotion I cut my lip open on the ring and said "YES" through a bloody lip..haha....hell..I still cant believe it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See Sean is an older man, set in his ways and just not the wedding cushy type....its was the most unexpected thing...I would have been less surprised if I was pregnant hahahahaha.
Here's the list I wrote a long time ago about what I love about my life with Sean:
Having unconditional love from your dogs
Support from your partner
Laughter around the dinner table
Champagne on a rainy day
Walks on the beach/mountain
Watching your favourite sport together
Listening to stories
Making tea in bed
Playing Jenga on the veranda